Celebrating True Love (Joanne's response)

Rob and Celia are highly bonded at this moment, so much so that the family crazy barely registers.  Yes, in the greater scheme of things, the incidents at their wedding are silly.  But there is a model here for marital relationships to draw on.  I once had a client say to me, regarding her husband, "I don't think he can be married to me and be her son at the same time."  She meant that the man was so reactive to anything his mother said or did that he was unable to be present to his wife, my client, to the point that he was not present in the delivery room when their child was born because his mother wanted to go get something to eat.  The Bible speaks to leaving and cleaving.  In choosing to marry, Rob and Celia have left (their families of origin).  Cleaving does not happen automatically but must be nurtured, in part by creating healthy boundaries around the marriage such that it is primary.  Rob and Celia's ability to laugh at their families, as well as their anticipation of sex, speak to how well they are cleaving.